When body image keeps you from swimming This photo was taken at the end of my NLP Practitioner course with Lizzi at Going Coastal. As the business name suggests, Lizzi’s practise revolves around the coast and I spent many hours coaching against the beautiful backdrop of Perranporth beach. As someone who enjoys the sea every…
Who’s to blame? My sister loves to remind me of this story, and every time she does I feel a pang of shame but it’s the strongest story that I have showing how I used to think. When I was young, my family were walking to my Nan’s house and I tripped and fell over….
Trying to hide from who I am How we are just broken hearts, Wasting time here in this bar, Trying to hide from who we are, Or is it just me? – Hinder These lyrics took me back. Back to a time when I felt so much pain and desperation. I longed for connection, to…
Keep dancing… don’t worry about being perfect So many of us won’t allow ourselves the freedom to be silly and expressive. We’re so worried about what other people think of us; we feel we must be calm, cool and collected to be ‘good enough’. “We hustle for our worthiness by slipping on the emotional and…
Never enough I’m not alone in being self-conscious of my appearance. By the age of 16, I was a size 8, or “far too skinny” and “barely eating” as my dad reminded me recently. I always thought I was too fat. Never skinny enough. Never pretty enough. Never tall enough, tanned enough or blonde enough. I…
When you don’t ask for what you need because you don’t want to inconvenience someone Asking for what you need really isn’t easy, and even more so when you feel that what you need isn’t fully understood by other people. One particular example for me is my need for an uncluttered environment. The way that…
The distance between my brain and my mouth seems so much further than for other people… Something that always bothered me was the fact that I didn’t think very quickly. If I was put on the spot I would completely freeze at times. It’s like the distance between my brain and my mouth is so…
I’m just a drop in the ocean, but look at the ripple effect one drop can make… I’m continuing to share my stories more and more publicly, and I’m helping others to do this too. This is Jenny and Tony from BBC Spotlight. Today, myself and three ladies from our speaking club met with Jenny for…
Letting go of being cool I don’t know many people who get on the same level as the local wildlife and talk to them as if they understand what they’re saying. I do. And I love it when I’m with someone who will crouch down next to me and appreciate the beauty of a swan,…
How one shared story can create vulnerability in a whole family I’m feeling really vulnerable as I’m sharing my stories. I know that this is natural and what I really want is to let you to know that this is what’s going on for me. I know it’s not always clear from the outside! There…
Suicide is not a selfish act During my recent suicide prevention course, ASIST, I listened to a Police Officer talking about how she believed people who attempted to end their lives are selfish because they leave behind friends and family who suffer in the long run. I felt really hurt by this, and angry that…
When feeling socially anxious impacts on your physical health too Exercise and fitness has been a huge trigger for me over the years. Comparison and fear of judgement has kept me from improving my fitness in the way I wanted. I HATED P.E when I was at school. Sometimes I would hide in the toilets or…