The rise of loneliness in the UK: Opportunity and Capacity for Connection
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The rise of loneliness in the UK: Opportunity and Capacity for Connection

Chronic loneliness rose by over half a million people to 7.1% between 2020-2023 in the United Kingdom (UK) (McClelland, 2023) with almost half of all adults reporting feeling lonely occasionally, sometimes, often or always (Campaign to End Loneliness, 2023). Our social landscape has radically changed at a fast pace, reducing conditions for social connectedness despite…

What it takes to feel like you matter
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What it takes to feel like you matter

Have you felt like you don’t matter? I wonder how many of do. I, for one, spent years feeling this way. Like it doesn’t matter if I’m at that event, with those people, or if I even exist. Who will notice? Who will be affected? Reduced feelings of ‘mattering’ have been found to contribute to loneliness…

Assuming the best in others to grow kindness & connection
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Assuming the best in others to grow kindness & connection

I’m a quiet person. Usually. I get quieter in groups. More so when people are new to me. And because of this, I’ve been misunderstood a lot in my life. I’ve been assumed to be rude, disinterested, stuck up, bitchy, and to dislike people, amongst other things. But that’s not me at all. I’ve always…

Are we happier alone or with others when we feel socially anxious?
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Are we happier alone or with others when we feel socially anxious?

Are those of us experiencing social anxiety happier alone? It would be easy to assume that someone experiencing social anxiety is happier alone than with other people. After all, feeling socially anxious means fearing social situations and, to avoid potential rejection, criticism and ridicule, we tend to avoid social interactions. This belief can fuel our…

Living BIG: Setting Boundaries When You’re a People Pleaser

Living BIG: Setting Boundaries When You’re a People Pleaser

Are you a people pleaser? Do you often say ‘yes’ when you really want to say ‘no’? Do you find yourself feeling resentful and like you’re being taken advantage of? You’re not alone. So many of us find ourselves in this place too; feeling unable to ask for what we need, say no to people…

Exploring the Anxieties of Emerging from Lockdowns & Simple Strategies to Support Reconnecting

Exploring the Anxieties of Emerging from Lockdowns & Simple Strategies to Support Reconnecting

Are you anxious about coming out of your lockdown cocoon and reconnecting as ‘normality’ returns? Worried your social skills will have taken a dive? Feeling like you’re the only one not looking forward to socialising again? The reality is that many people are experiencing anxiety about a post-pandemic return to ‘normal’. As much as we…

Why dating is so hard when you experience social anxiety and how you can make it easier

Why dating is so hard when you experience social anxiety and how you can make it easier

Dating is not easy… Dating is one of those things that we tend to think we ‘should’ be able to do because other people seem to find it so easy. But the truth is that dating isn’t easy -and this is true even for people who don’t experience social anxiety regularly. I promise, it’s not…

What you need to know about your anxious thinking (you should get taught this at school!)
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What you need to know about your anxious thinking (you should get taught this at school!)

What if you knew that the way you see the world isn’t the same as reality? If you were to train as an NLP Practitioner like me, one of the very first things you’d learn is that your thoughts aren’t reality. It turns out that we respond to our own internal representation of the world…

Why it’s important to rewrite your stories without Villains and Victims
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Why it’s important to rewrite your stories without Villains and Victims

I spent my childhood loving a man who I called Grandad. When I was 11, a series of events led to a situation whereby I found myself on the receiving end of the bitterness, anger, aggression and hostility stored within him; and just like that, I casted him as a villain in my life, soon…

3 lessons from Brené Brown that will help you to deal with criticism
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3 lessons from Brené Brown that will help you to deal with criticism

We all know that thoughtful feedback shared with us from a place of compassion helps us to grow, even if this isn’t always easy to hear. But there are some people who seem to spend much of their life hurling judgement and critical ‘advice’ at others with very little consideration and compassion behind it. Hurtful…

Why it’s worth choosing connection over avoidance
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Why it’s worth choosing connection over avoidance

You know how it is when you get talking to someone and that quiet excitement bubbles up inside because they feel so aligned with where you are and it’s almost like the universe has sent them your way? Well, I was lucky enough to have one of those awesome connections yesterday. It’s funny to think…