Valentine’s Day can be far from a happy occasion for many of us. It’s a time when we can feel very alone and get deep into comparisons, self-criticisms and shame. With hearts and flowers everywhere we look, it’s easy to feel a heightened, more painful sense of our own perceived flaws and wonder if we’ll […]
In this post, I’ll be sharing my top tips for supporting someone when they’re feeling socially anxious, from the perspective of someone who has experienced social anxiety myself. 1. Avoid blame and shame If the person is a friend or family member, avoid blaming and shaming them for what you may at first perceive as […]
My dear friends, How are you? It seems like an age since we last spoke, and even longer since I last saw you. I understand that you must see me as a terrible friend. I hardly make time to see you anymore. I don’t seem to start conversations on messenger. I rarely text or give […]
#TheVulnerabilityChallenge Day 10 The habit of sabotaging relationships When you’re feeling socially anxious, you can make irrational decisions, behave in odd ways and say strange and hurtful things. We don’t always realise it when we’re in that state of anxiety. We don’t really have that awareness of how our behaviour impacts other people. We can be […]
#TheVulnerabilityChallenge Day 8 Quiet refusal is still a refusal. [Trigger Warning: Rape] If you’ve been affected by this, please use your best judgement as to whether it would be wise or unhelpful for you to watch this video or read further. Obviously, I won’t go into detail here, but I know seeing the emotion someone else […]