Growing confidence when you're feeling socially anxious, shy or not good enough so you can live a happier life, the way you want...


...because no one should feel alone, broken and ashamed,
like we did.

Where would you like to start?


Feel genuinely understood and make true, supportive friends with people who have similar stories


Try new things, practise speaking up and gradually stretch your comfort zone amongst friends


Love your quiet strengths, manage your emotions and be the most compassionate, creative, courageous version of you

The best bit is that there’s no pressure to be anyone but yourself. Other people can relate to how hard and stressful it can be. It’s really good; a chilled atmosphere and you can choose to participate when you’re ready.

Gemma Kauder, Quiet Connections CIC
You can just be you Gemma

I went out last night with the girls and felt so confident! I was involving myself in all conversations and didn’t find myself analysing all situations. I felt free from my mind and I really enjoyed the catch up with them all. I noticed I was bringing them in to talk to me because I was acting confident. I also used the technique you showed me and it worked. I actually really felt confident. Thank you you’re really helping me.

Sarah, review of Quiet Connections Cornwall - Confidence
I felt so confident! Sarah

I really enjoyed our sessions; I had someone to talk to who was mature and reasonable. Your support enabled me to not feel overwhelmed. I didn’t feel so alone at university or like I had to face all these troubles on my own. I remember you being really warm and kind and how you gave me a hug and it felt like you gave a shit. It was like having an older sister or friend who had gone through similar stuff. It was a huge help to me and I honestly couldn’t have done it without you.

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I honestly couldn’t have done it without you Robyn, 22

My thoughts and feelings completely changed as I was able to see things in a different perspective that I haven’t been able to do in a while. I now know I am a better person than I see myself and that others see the good in me and do not see the ‘negative’ person I felt before.

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My thoughts and feelings completely changed Workshop Participant

Thank you for believing in me and supporting me to do this. I couldn’t do it without having you and QC behind me. 

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Thanks for believing in me Nikk

I felt that the group at Speaking Connections put my mind at rest when thinking about speaking out loud. Being around like minded people made me feel less isolated and boosted my confidence.

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It boosted my confidence Fi

The biggest thing that I took away with me that evening was that I needed to refocus (what was left of) my energy onto myself again. Using 2 out of the 3 exercises we went over at the workshop, I finally allowed my mind to rest. I was able to maintain and manage a lower level of anxiety and feel more confident in myself. I got some of my fight and motivation back! Woohoo!

I got my fight and motivation back! Stacie

I’m so glad I found you. It’s so nice to know that others are going through similar things. What I like most is being able to talk to others who have similar issues, learning how to overcome those using different techniques to control anxiety. It’s been a great way of making new friends with similar stories. You are an inspiration.

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A great way to make friends Speaking Connections participant

You’re very supportive, understanding, full of ideas and knowledge and also very down to earth and easy to get along with. I am now a less anxious and not afraid to go out of my comfort zone. I still use the ‘toolkit’, and swipe away that silly devil off my shoulder when it’s being too noisy!

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I’m not afraid to go out of my comfort zone Mel, 22

The workshop was really well delivered and I liked that you both brought personal experiences into the teaching (and also mentioning the anxiety you were currently feeling) – it made it more relatable. I’m currently suffering with a relapse in my confidence and now I know I can start making small changes to help 🙂

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I know I can start making small changes Workshop participant

You’re amazing. You helped me through so much emotional stuff when I was away from home feeling awful. I still think what you might say to me now when I’m in a crisis.

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I still think what you might say to me now Phoebe, 19

Great to know I’m not alone! 🙂 I felt relaxed and I really enjoyed sharing my ideas with others and hearing others talking their experiences. I’ll definitely continue using the techniques shared!

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I know I’m not alone Workshop participant

"Let go of who you think you're supposed to be... embrace who you are"

Brené Brown

Quiet beginnings

Hayley Stanton, Quiet Connections CIC"I grew up feeling shy, socially anxious and not good enough. I thought I was the only one; broken beyond repair. I was into my 20s by the time I started to grow my confidence and progress in my career, take a degree, improve my relationships and just feel good about being who I am. This only happened because I was brave enough to share just snippets of what I was going through, and I was lucky enough to meet people who supported me in growing my confidence and seeing the good in me (read my story).

I created Quiet Connections to help others who feel this way too. To provide supported opportunities for true connection and understanding, comfort zone stretches and coaching - all the things that helped me. Everyone who's a part of Team Quiet knows what it's like to feel this way and have found their own ways to reduce anxiety and feel more confident. Some have been through Quiet Connections programmes themselves. Click below to learn more about us.

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