What you need to know about the way you see the world

What if you knew that the way you see the world isn’t the same as reality? If you were to train as an NLP Practitioner like me, one of the very first things you’d learn is that your thoughts aren’t reality. It turns out that we respond to our own internal representation of the world […]

Is it time to be kinder to ourselves?

How can Mindfulness help? Mindfulness has become a buzzword of late – known for being a vital component in a self-care tool kit, along with exercise, eating healthily, and all those other things that you know are good for you but you don’t actually do… (Or is that just me?) I knew that mindfulness and […]

The importance of rewriting your stories without Villains and Victims

I spent my childhood loving a man who I called Grandad. When I was 11, a series of events led to a situation whereby I found myself on the receiving end of the bitterness, anger, aggression and hostility stored within him; and just like that, I casted him as a villain in my life, soon […]

3 lessons from Brené Brown that will help you to deal with criticism

We all know that thoughtful feedback shared with us from a place of compassion helps us to grow, even if this isn’t always easy to hear. But there are some people who seem to spend much of their life hurling judgement and critical ‘advice’ at others with very little consideration and compassion behind it. Hurtful […]

3 top TED talks for self-acceptance

We all have days when we need a boost. We might be feeling low on confidence, misunderstood, or doubting our abilities. These TED talks are for those days. Days when you need a pep talk on the unique qualities we can bring to the world. Talks to lift the spirit and remind you, it’s ok to be you.

3 steps for overcoming loneliness

Is it surprising to find out how, when we’re feeling lonely, we can create a self-fulfilling prophesy for ourselves if we’re not careful? In our last post, we explored how our unconscious attempts at self-protecting can lead us deep into disconnection:  Read: “Why isn’t it easy to reach out and connect when we’re feeling lonely?” […]

What I’ve learned about group sharing and vulnerability

‘Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity.’ Brene Brown – Daring Greatly. Like many introverts, I have always been a chronic hater of sharing with the group. Allowing myself to be vulnerable – seen, heard and judged. Speaking in class, staff […]

5 top tips for showcasing quiet communication skills in your job interview

5 top tips for showcasing your quieter communication skills in your next job interview

Communication Skills for Career Success Ask an employer from any sector what they look for in new recruits and it’s not long before that broadly defined powerhouse of a soft skill – communication – springs to mind. Not surprising, really. Effective communication means a potential hire has the interpersonal and persuasion skills to explain ideas […]

Feel undeserving about recognition? Here’s what you can do about it

Why is it that some people seem to be able to gracefully accept compliments for a job well done, recognising the credit that they rightly deserve, while others try to divert the attention and want to run away from it instead? If you lean more towards the latter, then welcome to the club, because I […]

selfish or self-preservation

Why it’s not selfish to put yourself first

Am I being selfish?  As soon as the word selfish left her mouth, my throat tightened, and my head felt like it may possibly explode. All I wanted to do was come back with a well thought out retort, but my mind went blank as her last word still stung my ears.   Growing up, […]

3 reasons you need to have that tough conversation today

Let’s face it, we would all rather avoid uncomfortable feelings if it were at all possible. This includes avoiding tough conversations. When we feel hurt or vulnerable, our first response is often to do anything we can to move away from that feeling. We might be choosing to be burying our heads in the sand […]

University Successes

How I’m stretching my comfort zone at university

It’s fair to assume that if I have something coming up that I’m worrying about, I’ll be thinking of a thousand different ways things could go wrong. Because of this, situations often seem like they’re going to be worse than they realistically could ever be. Like a vicious cycle, the anxious thoughts can increase. However, […]