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We may not say a lot or speak it loud, but our words are important

In the nineteenth century, when the Bronte sisters published their literary works, they did so under male pseudonyms. It was either that or they were at risk of their novels, at best, not being taken seriously, at worst, never to be seen hot off the press and selling at all. Clearly, there was no question, they were more than prepared to feign their identity to see that they were read far and wide. This gender bias was just one relatively mild example of silencing people that apparently didn’t need a voice. 

Despite unequal times, the good that came from this is something to rejoice immensely. Those best-selling Brontes proved that they were as good as any with their gift for prose.They actively bypassed a prejudice in their time meaning we don’t have to today. Imagine being ruled out in this day as unworthy of being heard because we are something of a minority. We are not just talking gender. This may encompass sexual orientation, age, religion, creed, colour, mental ability and last but not least – since I believe we are one of the most overlooked causes and this is why we find ourselves united here today – our disposition.

This is my first article. Therefore, it was only recently I was given a choice of whether I would like to be published with my name or remain anonymous, as a guest blogger. Aside from not being a frequent writer, I completely respect that there are reasons some amongst us contributors would opt for anonymity. I could not think why I should not want to put my name to this or any future article when it is shared on such an empowering and inspiring blog for and on behalf of such kindred spirits.The ethos that stands and support promised here is so meekly addressed elsewhere. So if I can be myself anywhere, it’s here.

It’s okay to be quiet, as long as we’re not being silenced. As hard as it sounds, that includes the act of self-censorship. Whether communicating verbally or in written form, we all have the courage to manifest our truth, a state far superior to any that prevents it being told. We may not say a lot or speak it loud, that does not mean that the little we do say is any less relevant or important than those around us. In fact, in my own experience, I have found that the more taciturn or reserved people I’ve met tend to convey what’s appropriate, non-judgmental, concise and honest. If such nature of communication is not well received or respected, that ought not to be our cross to bear. Essentially, we can be walking examples of quality over quantity. 

Written by Paris Vaja

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