Dear Santa, This Christmas…

ByHayley Stanton

Dear Santa,

This Christmas, I don’t want to stuff every nook and cranny in my home with purposeless possessions that have no place. I don’t want a room full of ‘junk’ I haven’t looked at in months. I don’t want to put up another shelf to display random bits and bobs that aren’t deeply meaningful to me. I don’t want to cram more clothes into my overfull wardrobe or squeeze another picture onto my busy walls.

I already have enough clothes to keep me dressed each day, and I have enough jewellery to make a change each week. My gut says it doesn’t want chocolates and sweets anymore, thank you all the same. My heart wants more books, but I’ve one left from last year to read.

Santa, what I really want this Christmas is less ‘stuff’ in my life, not more. I don’t need lots of new things. I honestly have enough.

So how about something new this Christmas? I wonder how it would be, if all of those people that think I’m tough to buy for, actually got to know the real me. What if they were curious about what really makes me tick? What if they asked about the things I hold dear? Swap clutter for affection I could keep in my heart.

This Christmas, true connection would be the best gift…

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  • Hi, I’m Hayley - the original quieteer. I, too, identify as a quiet person. I’m naturally a highly sensitive introvert and I love and appreciate my quiet strengths now, but I spent much of my life not feeling good enough and experiencing social anxiety. I missed so many opportunities because I was afraid of being judged harshly, criticised and rejected – and because I doubted that I had the ‘right’ personality to succeed. Quiet Connections exists in part because I had a fantastic coach who helped me to work through old patterns of keeping myself small and hidden so that I could show up and be seen to play my part in creating the more connected, curious and compassionate world that I dream of. Now, I’m passionate about helping quiet people discover their unique qualities, gifts, passions and experiences and explore how best to use these to express themselves more authentically and contribute to the world in a way that works with their quieter or more sensitive nature. Get to know me here.

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