A Visit to My Past: Finding Confidence in the Journey Forward
Returning to my old school, I hardly recognise it. The familiar building has been replaced with a sleek, university-like structure, and few of the faces are familiar. But it has been 12 years.
Signing in at reception, surrounded by other visitors, I’m struck by how intimidating this place would have been to my 11-year-old self, transitioning from my small primary school in Ponsanooth, where I was the only girl in my year. I’m here today with Future First to help Year 11 students see that people like them can find their way forward.
Joining the students in assembly, we share a few words about our work and the paths we’ve taken, encouraging them to find what feels right for them. Later, in the library, I look around at a few girls staying quiet and sitting small. Talking with some of them about their goals, I’m reminded of the gifts of introversion I see so clearly in them, and I wonder if they can see those strengths too.
One young woman mentions how hard it is to speak up in groups, and I’m instantly reminded of my younger self. At her age, I would have traded everything to feel confident, outgoing—even popular. If someone had told me then that I would go on to do all I’ve done, I would have laughed it off as impossible. “That’s not me,” I’d have thought. “I can’t do that.” But we’re rarely as limited as we think.
It took me a long time to learn that confidence and ease in social situations can be built over time—they aren’t set in stone. I once felt being “too quiet” would always hold me back, but learning to challenge that idea changed everything. If you’ve ever felt similarly, you’re not alone. There’s support, and people who understand, who can walk with you as you grow.
I’ve done things I never thought possible, even if I’m still not one for the spotlight. But stretching our comfort zones, little by little, can open doors we didn’t know existed. At 16, I didn’t see the path ahead; at 28, I’m still surprising myself. And I know you will too—again and again.
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