How Quiet Connections has helped other people in their own words

Speaking Connections

I’m so glad I found you. It’s so nice to know that others are going through similar things. What I like most is being able to talk to others who have similar issues, learning how to overcome those using different techniques to control anxiety. It’s been a great way of making new friends with similar stories.

– Claire


I like the openness of the group and the way they greeted me when I first started a few months ago. They continue to show an interest and make me feel welcome.

– Jake


I felt that the group put my mind at rest when thinking about speaking out loud. Being around like minded people made me feel less isolated and boosted my confidence

– Fi


Cafe Chaos is a warm and nice space to sit back with some coffee (or tea) and cake and take it all in. There is no pressure. You can join a small table at any point with some nice people who will all make you feel at ease (they feel just like you do). There are lots of helpful tips to gain from the sessions if you feel like trying to safely engage with others.

– Tom


The best bit is that there’s no pressure to be anyone but yourself. Other people can relate to how hard and stressful it can be. It’s really good; a chilled atmosphere and no pressure to participate

– Gemma


I met some lovely people tonight and surprised myself by speaking out to the whole group! You are awesome. Thank you for this opportunity.

– Sarah


I found everyone at the speaking club to be very welcoming and non-judgemental. I’d recommend it as a great place to work on your public speaking skills.

– Toni


Another great session tonight. Great people, great advice. Well done and thank you Quiet Connections. Cafe Chaos is a great venue.

– Lindsay


The conversations between organiser and attendees are honest and open. I like that I can be candid about the issues I face knowing that I’m not the only one.

– James

Tiny tweaks to grow your confidence workshop

The biggest thing that I took away with me that evening was that I needed to refocus (what was left of) my energy onto myself again. Using 2 out of the 3 exercises we went over at the workshop, I finally allowed my mind to rest. I was able to maintain and manage a lower level of anxiety and feel more confident in myself. I got some of my fight and motivation back! Woohoo!

Seeing the Good in You workshop

My thoughts and feelings completely changed as I was able to see things in a different perspective that I haven’t been able to do in a while. I now know I am a better person than I see myself and that others see the good in me and do not see the ‘negative’ person I felt before.

Sarah, 30: one to one support, Speaking Connections and workshop

I am so happy that Hayley started Quiet Connections. I have felt socially anxious and depressed most of my life. I didn’t really understand what triggered these and how to control them until I had coaching with Hayley.

I was thrilled when I was invited to their first confidence workshop at Cafe Chaos. Ten ladies turned up and by the end of the session, we were chatting with each other and some of us even felt comfortable enough to speak up    in the group –and that included me!

The session really helped me and the very next morning, I spoke with two new ladies on the pre-school run. I even felt confident enough to move forward with my career plans, signing up for a new course and contacting professionals for advice.

I regularly attend Speaking Connections and it’s helping me a lot. When I first started at the speaking club, I sat and observed with a cuppa and a biscuit. There’s no pressure to join in, but by the end of the first workshop I felt ready. It’s so refreshing to know you’re not alone in feeling socially anxious and low in confidence. I feel I’m a part of a group where people understand me.

I am so grateful to have this opportunity of being around others who feel like I do and to be able to take away effective methods that will definitely continue to help me in my daily life. I have learned how to make tiny tweaks to gain confidence in myself and control my anxiety.

Quiet Connections is amazing and has changed my life for the better.

Mel, 22: one to one support

Our first meeting went very well -my just being there was progress already. It was all the more helpful and encouraging that I had a friendly and positive person that I got on with immediately. You were very supportive, understanding, full of ideas and knowledge and also very down to earth and easy to get along with.

I liked the sessions where we’d come up with different ideas and techniques to try out and tackle the problem. I really enjoyed one activity where I was reflecting and looking toward what I can do to shape and plan my ideal me and future.

All our sessions were very beneficial to me and I am now a less anxious and not afraid to go out of my comfort zone. I still use the ‘toolkit’, and swipe away that silly devil off my shoulder when it’s being too noisy. 😉

DJ, 20: one to one support

At first, I felt concerned about opening up but I liked that it was a warm and friendly environment and I could either talk about my darkest fears or some silly song that makes me feel better and I’m still treated in the same way with no judgement. I found it most useful to tackle a feeling, thought or action, break it down and find out solutions or other ways to look at it. I still write 3 things I’m grateful for every Sunday after work. It works like a charm to make me feel better.

Robyn, 22: one to one support

I really enjoyed our sessions; I had someone to talk to who was mature and reasonable. Your support enabled me to not feel overwhelmed (or if I did feel overwhelmed, you helped me think things through). Being a lot more like a conversation and talking through options and what I could do to combat those problems, it helped me understand my problems more. It’s like having a really supportive mature friend with great practical tools. I didn’t feel so alone at university or like I had to face all these troubles on my own. I remember you being really warm and kind and how you gave me a hug and it felt like you gave a shit. It was like having an older sister or friend who had gone through similar stuff. It was a huge help to me and I honestly couldn’t have done it without you. 

Phoebe, 19: one to one support

You’re amazing. You helped me through so much emotional stuff when I was away from home feeling awful. I still think now what you might say to me when I’m in a crisis. I found colouring and just chatting so so so helpful for helping me to organise my thoughts and find peace in myself. I’m still doing colouring and meditation! Those things led me into finding lots of other self-care activities like embroidery, reading etc that help me every single day. 

Mikey, 19: one to one support

I was worried about having to open up and allow a change to take place, but I enjoyed the need to take time to find solutions and to understand again that wellbeing helps to inform calmer and more achievable goals. This allowed me to focus on the task ahead without the confusion of other elements interrupting the pathway to success.

Nikk, 27: one to one support

Thank you for believing in me and supporting me to do this. I couldn’t do it without having you and QC behind me. 

One to one support for children

Caroline gives me some time by myself with someone I can talk to (instead of just Mum and Dad). We always have something fun to do and I can do what I want instead of what someone else wants! 

– Katie, 11