Meet the Coach: Hayley Stanton

Hi, I'm Hayley.

I’m the original quieteer and founded Quiet Connections after I first trained as a coach in 2014. Now, I’m studying coaching at Masters level. Before I started coaching, my background and education was in health and wellbeing and business but I knew deep down that, somehow, there was a more meaningful contribution I could make.

A series of leaps of faith and trusting my intuition led me to discover what I’m truly here for: personal growth and connection for quiet people who want to make a difference in the world. If this sounds like you, I’d love to help you flourish as your true self and create a positive ripple effect of your own.

About me

I, too, identify as a quiet person. I’m naturally a highly sensitive introvert and I love and appreciate my quiet strengths now, but I spent much of my life not feeling good enough and experiencing social anxiety. I missed so many opportunities because I was afraid of being judged harshly, criticised and rejected – and because I doubted that I had the ‘right’ personality to succeed. Quiet Connections exists in part because I had a fantastic coach who helped me to work through old patterns of keeping myself small and hidden so that I could show up and be seen to play my part in creating the more connected, curious and compassionate world that I dream of. You can read my story here.

Now, I’m passionate about helping quiet people discover their unique qualities, gifts, passions and experiences and explore how best to use these to express themselves more authentically and contribute to the world in a way that works with their quieter or more sensitive nature – and I’d love to help you uncover what this looks like for you and how you can create this in your life now.


  • Student of MSc Applied Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology
  • NLP Practitioner (neuro-linguistic programming)
  • mBIT Coach (multiple brain integration techniques - think head, heart & gut wisdom)
  • Blue Health Coach (the science and philosophy of water for wellbeing)
  • ASIST: Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training
  • Action Learning Team Facilitator
  • ILM Level 3 Award in Coaching
  • BSc Dimensions in Healthcare
  • Business Studies (140 credits level 4-6)
  • Association of NLP (ANLP) Professional Member
  • Code of Practice: ANLP, mBIT & EMCC

What my coachees are saying

Before starting coaching, I was struggling with self-confidence, ‘selling’ myself in job applications and interviews, understanding the setting of limits and how to break the cycle and start saying ‘no’. I was bit apprehensive about the coaching process and the discussions, but that eased almost immediately with how the first coaching session was conducted. It still felt challenging, but it a good and necessary way. I have been given the courage to look at roles I never would have thought about beforehand and frame my writing about myself in a very different way.

As a result of our work together, I have applied for a role at a company other than my current one! I have started to think for a moment before responding to any praise or positive feedback, to not sound disbelieving. And I can push back on some work requests now, I know it's okay to say no when something isn't your job and you don't have time.

Hayley has been great - flexible, getting me to question why I am making assumptions and what different scenarios would look like. Helping me to learn to pause and think. Ensuring that I don't just continue on the same road that I have been, but offering me the opportunity to think differently and challenge my preconceptions about myself and the rules I have put in place. 

Nadia, Brighton

I have started volunteering in a place I had no prior experience of and gained employment. What’s most surprised me is being able to going to a party, dancing, socialising with new people and feeling very comfortable with the whole event… actually enjoying it!

I have more confidence and I am becoming more myself. I now have self-compassion and more understanding of my quietness and my past reactions. I see I am becoming more responsible for opening up new opportunities in my life, I am becoming increasingly stronger to experience more for myself and family.

Hayley has rebalanced my life with her kindness, knowledge and fantastic support. It’s the best thing I’ve done!

Laura, St Agnes

My sessions with Hayley have enabled me to become more motivated & given me the ability to move forward in my life with more confidence. Hayley's professional, personal approach has given me a greater understanding & insights into my behaviour & anxieties around certain situations & relationships. I now feel more confident & self-accepting.

Due to the current climate (covid) I have been unable to meet with Hayley face to face. Whilst I initially thought that this service may not have been useful for this reason. I was pleasantly surprised that the autonomy actually allowed me to be more vulnerable & this actually catapulted my progress. I have been involved in many different types of healing/support work/therapies over the years, including counselling when training to be a therapist myself, but I can honestly say, that the work I have done with Hayley has been the most successful & rewarding in my personal growth. Such a great service, I have already recommended it to other people. Thank you so much Hayley for all your support, vulnerability & transparency.

Coachee, Redruth

Working with Hayley made me start to challenge my limiting beliefs and see that my thoughts are not my reality; they’re very powerful, but they don't define who I am. I realised that actually I'm not all these labels that I had said to me over the years and it's made me challenge how I saw myself and to stop rejecting myself. 

I want people to know that there's hope. Just because you're used to thinking and behaving in a certain way, it doesn't mean that that is your destiny. And I would definitely recommend doing comfort zone stretches because there's no joy in being stuck. They say life begins at the end of your comfort zone and it’s definitely true.

Esther, St Austell

When I first met Hayley I had limited confidence and no self-esteem or self-belief. I didn't feel worthy of others’ time, effort, help or love. But with coaching, I began to feel differently about myself. I discovered I could do the things I was scared of, and I was likeable. I joined groups and did different activities and had fun while being my true self... Happy Dance and all! The biggest thing I've learned is to trust, both myself and others. I have belief in myself now. I can act with grace and love to myself as well as those around me and I have been able to develop friendships with new people.

Rose, Camborne

Since having coaching, I've been feeling a lot better and I've gone out and met a group of new people multiple times for the first time in 3 years. I even talked to people when I was there which is amazing! None of the calming techniques that have been shown to me before have worked but Hayley found one that did straight away! I finally feel like I can get back on my feet and get better. I also think that it helped that it was a phone call instead of face to face because I could be more honest and didn't have to worry about body language or eye contact so I could focus more. It really felt like Hayley was invested in me getting better and was dedicated to finding any solution to help. This has honestly been invaluable and I'm so thankful even though I was sceptical before starting.

Coachee, Penryn

Where I coach

I offer in-person coaching in these areas: Falmouth, Redruth, Camborne, Portreath and Truro. I most enjoy coaching in the blue and green spaces of Cornwall.

If you live outside of these areas or prefer to connect through technology, you can also have coaching sessions with me via Zoom, FaceTime or WhatsApp Video, or a simple phone call if you're more comfortable with this.

I am currently offering coaching for our community of quieteers at £60.00 for a one-off coaching session, or £330.00 for a package of six sessions.

Book an introductory call with me

Pick a date below to schedule a free 30-minute call to say hello, explore how coaching might work for you, and see if we're a good match. We can discuss how often you'll have coaching sessions, and how or where we'll connect.


You can think of a Coach as a fellow explorer in your journey. Coaching is equal partnership between you and your Coach in a thought-provoking and empowering conversational process that incorporates appropriate strategies, tools, and techniques to help you move closer to where you want to go and how you want to show up in life.

If you’re not yet sure what this looks like for you, coaching can help you to gain clarity, ideas and options that are aligned with your true self.

Coaching is not therapy and will not explore traumatic past experiences in the manner of counselling. You will not be expected to 'fill the space' without prompting; your Coach will be active and truly curious about your experience and assist your thinking through thoughtful questioning and reflecting your insights back to you to help you make sense of your challenges.

Coaching is also not intended to provide advice or tell you what is right for you. Coaching is not directive. Your Coach is here to help you add choices and see new possibilities, and then make the wisest decisions available to you -and only you can know what is best for you after careful reflection, which is the process that your Coach will facilitate with you.

Coaching is predominantly present- and future-focused, aiming to facilitate self-directed learning, self-awareness, personal growth, and improved performance, inspiring you to maximise your potential in the areas that matter to you.

The Coach's role is to facilitate your exploration, which could involve helping you to formulate your goals or intentions; providing a balance of support and kind challenge to assist you in gaining new insights and possibilities for yourself; helping you to identify your needs and what is important to you; and assisting you in exploring the options, resources and support available to you, including your own inner strengths and wisdom.

Where appropriate, your Coach may invite you to reflect on previous experiences for the purpose of extracting learning which you can use in the future. They may also offer constructive feedback or provide accountability for taking agreed actions. Your Coach may help you to re-focus the conversation if you go 'off track' and help you to search for solutions. Your Coach will also reflect back to you your strengths, resources and achievements so that you can see the light in you more clearly for yourself.

Your Coach will be open-minded, non-judgemental, and compassionate in your interactions. They will bring attentive listening, thoughtful questioning, and constructive challenge to assist you in your development. Each Coach has a varied ‘toolkit’, and will incorporate interventions from coaching and psychology as appropriate. They may also offer relevant actions that you could take that could support you in achievement of your goals -what you take away and choose to act on is always entirely up to you.

We believe that:

  1. You can achieve more than you already are; everyone has hidden potential waiting to be unlocked.
  2. You have all the resources that you need, even if you don’t see this for yourself yet.
  3. You are the expert on you, because both you and your path are unique. Therefore, people benefit the most when they are supported to access the wisdom they hold within, rather than simply being told what to do.
  4. Success depends on discovering new options, increasing personal flexibility, and having the willingness to try out new methods.
  5. Anything can be accomplished if the task is broken down into manageable, bitesize steps.
  6. Failures are stepping stones on the path to success; we learn and grow from things not going to plan.
  7. We are all unique, experience the world in different ways, and have our own individual way of being -and embracing our uniqueness is the greatest gift we can offer the world.

You will get the most out of coaching when:

  • You're already in a place where you are keen to dive in and explore what more there is inside of you and all the possibilities that exist for you.
  • You believe that you can change and create change for yourself. Maybe you just don't quite know how or what that looks like right now, but you are super curious to uncover your potential!
  • You're willing to turn inwards, be vulnerable, sit with discomfort, and to have a go (even when it sucks) because you know this is what it takes to be a truer, wiser version of yourself in this world.
  • You are invested in your own growth and committed to showing up and putting in the effort.

No, sorry. We don't specialise in working with autistic people here at Quiet Connections. Our focus is introversion, high sensitivity and social anxiety.

We do welcome autistic people in our community and on our programmes, but we know that there are other coaching services run by people with specialist training, skills and experience, which we don't have, who specifically serve the autistic community.

Get to know your Coach before deciding to work with them...

You can learn more about each coach, their experience and their stories here.

You can book a free 30-minute discovery call with a coach to see if we're a good fit for you. Book a Discovery Call Here

Coaching in Nature across Cornwall

We offer walking-exploring sessions across much of Cornwall, partnering with blue and green spaces in our coaching approaches (We regularly coach in the areas of Penzance, Porthleven, The Lizard, Helston, Hayle, Falmouth, Redruth, Camborne, Portreath, Truro, Mount Hawke, Porthtowan, Perranporth, Newquay and Charlestown - get in touch to find out where we can work with you).

Coaching from Further Afield

If you live outside of these areas or prefer to connect through technology, you can also have coaching sessions via Zoom, FaceTime or WhatsApp Video, or a simple phone call if you're more comfortable with this.

You get out of coaching what you put in. So, to gain the most from your coaching sessions and maximise your results, you are responsible for:

• Preparing for each session by (a) reflecting on your topic between sessions through thinking, journaling, or talking, and (b) considering what you would like to explore in the next session (e.g., you could bring a particular challenge, opportunity, question, or curiosity about how you show up, interact, and make decisions in any life area).

• Ensuring that you can talk freely and will not be interrupted or overheard during your sessions, keeping your mobile phone on silent and using a private space if coaching online. Your Coach will do the same.

• Taking agreed actions between sessions, or otherwise be willing to explore the reasons if not carried through.

• Bringing an open-minded and curious attitude to your sessions; you are here to explore and expand your available options and flexibility.

• Being willing to focus on what you do want rather than what you don’t want (your Coach can also help you with this).

• Telling the Coach all relevant information that will assist you in achieving your goals and overcoming any issues or blocks to your success.

• Being honest and open in the conversations, including providing feedback to the Coach where needed.

• Your own learning and development. You may wish to bring a notebook and pen to jot down insights and actions during meetings.

Each session will usually begin with an update on any actions you’ve taken or challenges you have faced between sessions, then prioritising and agreeing areas to work on in that session.

As you take steps forward and gain new insights, your priorities, life areas of focus and curiosities may change, so coaching aims to be flexible to meet you where you are in each session. Therefore, the timing, location, and focus of sessions are open to change as you progress.


Notice: If you need to cancel or reschedule a session, please provide a minimum of 48 hours’ notice where possible so that someone else may be offered your space. Missed appointments and late cancellations will result in loss of a pre-paid session (genuine medical emergencies excepted).

Method: You will be provided with a link to easily cancel or reschedule your coaching session and notify your Coach. Or you may contact your Coach directly via email or text.

Exiting: If you wish to end your coaching sessions early for any reason, you may do so by informing your Coach. Alternatively, you can email the admin team at but if you have an upcoming session, please also cancel this with your Coach as outlined above as this mailbox is not checked daily. Unused pre-paid sessions cancelled with the required notice period will be refunded.

Quiet Connections and your Coach is committed to the confidentiality of the coaching relationship, as well as all information (documented or verbal) that you may share with your Coach as part of the coaching relationship.

Confidentiality may be broken in the following circumstances, which the Coach would endeavour to discuss with you prior to acting:

1. Where you give consent for information to be shared with a third party

2. Where the Coach is legally compelled to disclose information

3. Where the Coach believes that you or other people may be in danger

In addition, as Professional Coaches, we undertake Coach Supervision and further studies in which we may share some information about our experiences as a Coach for the purpose of our own development of practice and so that we may serve our Quieteers better. This will be anonymous and only non-identifiable information will be shared.

If you have been referred and funded by another organisation, your Coach may be required to share session dates and, occasionally, an overview of the sessions with the referrer; in such cases, communications use only your initials. Your Coach will inform you if this has been requested and you can view session reports before they are sent if you wish.

Feedback: You are invited to provide constructive feedback to your Coach at any time knowing that we are learning and growing together. Your Coach will seek feedback from you throughout the coaching process. You will also be invited to complete a feedback survey at the end of your coaching experience to help us capture what’s working well and what can be improved. This also provides us with the necessary evidence of our work and impact for our stakeholders.

Complaints: In the first instance, it is recommended that you discuss with your Coach if you feel something isn’t working well, so that they may alter their approach. If you do not feel able to do so, you may contact one of the Directors by email to share your concerns or request a meeting to discuss and seek resolutions together. If you wish to make a formal complaint, you will need to put your complaint with all relevant details in writing and email

Our coaching package includes six 60-minute coaching sessions, meeting with your coach two-weekly over a duration of three months, for an investment of up to £120/month (if required, a discounted rate may be available by discussion with a coach).

Need some flexibility? It's easy to add further sessions if you feel these would be beneficial for you; complete your sessions more quickly by meeting with your coach weekly; or even pause your sessions if you'd like a take a short break. Just speak with your coach in your introductory call or during your coaching sessions to explore the possibilities.

Want less sessions? Sure! Just agree this with your Coach in your introductory call.

We’ve got you - there’s an extended payment plan for those that need this and payment can be split into monthly payments throughout the duration of your coaching programme. Just drop us a message to arrange.