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#TheVulnerabilityChallenge Day 23
Being seen as imperfect
Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to do the things that we think we shouldn’t do. To behave in a way that doesn’t necessarily fit with how we’re seen. To do the things that scare us and show ourselves as the vulnerable, imperfect human beings we are.
I’ve given myself permission to do a whole load of stuff that I never before felt was okay – things that had been holding me back. And these are my permission slips…
There were parts of me I distanced myself from. I didn’t want to be different to anyone else. I wanted to blend in – not too loud and not too quiet. To never be criticised or judged. I tried to hide that I’m imperfect and make mistakes. That I’m as vulnerable as anyone else. And that I need help and care sometimes. I wanted to be seen as someone who’s strong and independent; quick and intelligent. I worried about being an inconvenience.
With the permission slips, I’m allowing myself to be seen. To be seen as imperfect and vulnerable and human. As Brené Brown says:
Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do. The first step is giving us permission to show up.