The Vulnerability Challenge

#TheVulnerabilityChallenge: Courage is contagious (Day 13)

BBC Spotlight Interview
Hayley Stanton
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Hayley Stanton

Director & Coach at Quiet Connections
Hayley shares her personal stories of feeling shy, socially anxious, ‘not good enough’ and fearfully avoiding the good things in life. Growing her confidence through coaching, gradually stretching her comfort zone and connecting with others, she now uses everything she has learned to help other people grow their confidence in her role as a coach. Hayley is passionate about connecting people with similar stories and creating safe, supportive spaces to make friends and try new things. Hayley dreams of a time when all of the strengths, skills and goodness in ‘quiet’ is recognised and appreciated as readily as being bold, gregarious, and comfortable in the spotlight is right now.
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#TheVulnerabilityChallenge Day 13

I’m just a drop in the ocean, but look at the ripple effect one drop can make…

I’m continuing to share my stories more and more publicly, and I’m helping others to do this too.

This is Jenny and Tony from BBC Spotlight. Today, myself and three ladies from our speaking club met with Jenny for an interview about our personal experiences of mental health. In particular, suicidal thinking.

Tonight, I am feeling awed by the bravery of my three friends and the compassion they show for others. Each one had a powerful message they wanted to share with people who have a similar story to theirs, reaching out and offering hope. And each one felt anxious about the experience before and during the interview. Yet, they all chose to show up. And they all spoke their truth driven by the desire to help others and create change. For a room of people who’s aim in life has been to keep small, be quiet and stay unseen, that’s a remarkable achievement.

But there weren’t three courageously compassionate strong women there today; there were four. And when I reflect on this, I am awed by my own progress. It’s amazing to think I was once that ‘scared little girl’ and now I have the ability to speak up. But what’s more incredible is, as I’m speaking out, other people are joining me and sharing their stories too. This ripple effect started with my first act of courage. This is how change beings.

“I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the waters to create many ripples.”

-Mother Teresa

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