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Caroline’s Story: I’ve been full of doubt and self-loathing

Caroline's Story
Caroline Wade
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Caroline Wade

Director and Mentor at Quiet Connections
I always struggled to understand and manage myself and my own wellbeing as a teenager which had a significant impact on my personal confidence and self-worth so I know how challenging and painful this can be, especially for young people. I am determined to make a positive contribution to help people feel they have the power to be and do whatever they choose to which is something I am learning more about everyday in my own life.
Caroline Wade
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Caroline Wade, Quiet Connections

Facts

  • Struggled with periods of anxiety, depression and feeling ‘not good enough’ until I finally felt brave enough to access support and therapy
  • Highly sensitive person and extroverted introvert
  • Thrive Practicitioner, Family Support Worker, Mentor with ILM Award Coaching and a BSc in French and European studies
  • Passionate about the neuroscience and attachment theories behind how we behave under stress
  • FAVOURITE QUOTE: Everybody is a genius (awesome). but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid (not good enough)’ – Albert Einstein (with my own additions!)

 

My Story

On the outside people see me as a confident, outgoing and friendly woman who can talk to anyone and embrace life and all of it’s opportunities; but throughout most of my life, on the inside I have often felt like a young self-conscious girl full of doubt and self-loathing living with a highly critical internal voice that is never satisfied with anything I do.

I have experienced periods of depression, low mood and anxiety through my life. Since the age of 14 I have struggled to admit when I am not ok, seeing it as a failing compared to others who seem to be able to cope with the busy-ness, noise and energy it takes to just ‘do’ everyday life. I struggled to understand and manage myself and my own wellbeing as a teenager which had a significant impact on my personal confidence and self-worth. With low confidence and little self worth, I struggled to come to terms with the impact of an alcoholic parent with mental ill-health. Then, I was devastated when, after years of trying, I lost a baby and was told I couldn’t have children. For years, all I could do was to keep powering on through, battling every step of the way until I had no choice but to hide and withdraw from the world feeling broken. A fraud. A failure. Then I’d get back up and start all over again, repeating the cycle.

Over time and with support, I have learnt that I don’t have to do it this way: I can use the resilience I have gained to manage and work through challenging times; build my inner confidence; and start to accept and even like myself for all that I am. This has meant learning to say when I need support, let go and give myself permission to take time-out and connect who I truly am with who I present to the world.

I love to relax whilst listening to my favourite music or reading a good book and eating great food! When I’m feeling more active, I love a good boogie or going stomping with my two dogs at the beach or in the woods. Podcasts or TED talks help me find inspiration and keep my brain busy.

I am determined to make a positive contribution to help people feel they have the power to be and do whatever they choose to -something I am learning more about everyday in my own life. I want nothing more than to work with, connect, stretch and grow with others to remind us all that we don’t just need to survive, we can thrive!

Professional experience

I have worked in a range of educational, voluntary, community and residential settings to support  children, young people and vulnerable families for over 12 years. I currently work as a Coach and Mentor for Quiet Connections and as a Family Support Worker in a local Secondary School. I am a Thrive trained Practicitioner (Adolescent Years) with a  Level 3 Award in Coaching; L2 in Mental Health; Diploma in Volunteer Management and BSc with extensive experience in Safeguarding and delivering training.

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