Growing confidence when you're feeling socially anxious, shy or not good enough so you can live a happier life, the way you want...

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Try new things, practise being heard and gradually stretch your comfort zone amongst friends


Learn to manage anxious feelings, love your quiet strengths and grow your confidence

I went out last night with the girls and felt so confident! I was involving myself in all conversations and didn’t find myself analysing all situations. I felt free from my mind and I really enjoyed the catch up with them all. I noticed I was bringing them in to talk to me because I was acting confident. I also used the technique you showed me and it worked. I actually really felt confident. Thank you you’re really helping me.

Sarah, review of Quiet Connections Cornwall - Confidence
I felt so confident! Sarah

The biggest thing that I took away with me that evening was that I needed to refocus (what was left of) my energy onto myself again. Using 2 out of the 3 exercises we went over at the workshop, I finally allowed my mind to rest. I was able to maintain and manage a lower level of anxiety and feel more confident in myself. I got some of my fight and motivation back! Woohoo!

I got my fight and motivation back! Stacie

The workshop was really well delivered and I liked that you both brought personal experiences into the teaching (and also mentioning the anxiety you were currently feeling) – it made it more relatable. I’m currently suffering with a relapse in my confidence and now I know I can start making small changes to help 🙂

I know I can start making small changes Workshop participant

Great to know I’m not alone! 🙂 I felt relaxed and I really enjoyed sharing my ideas with others and hearing others talking their experiences. I’ll definitely continue using the techniques shared!

I know I’m not alone Workshop participant
“Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be… embrace who you are”
Brené Brown

We all know what it’s like to feel you don’t belong; or to think that you’re just not good enough.

For me, this was how I felt growing up shy and socially anxious. I really believed there was something very wrong with me. I felt I had no place in the world and I didn’t have the confidence I needed to cope with everyday situations. Perhaps you've felt a similar way?

Without support, this destructive thinking can lead to dire consequences. I know this all too well.

It wasn’t until I was in my 20s that I began to accept my quiet nature. With the help of a coach, I was noticing and appreciating my unique strengths for the first time. I developed skills to manage anxiety and I started to feel a sense of quiet confidence.

And then I shared my story... and I realised that I am not alone. Did you know that 2 in 5 people consider themselves to be shy? So many other people feel this way too! We just don’t talk about it, do we? (After all, the last thing we really want is to draw attention to ourselves).

So I’m starting those conversations here and now. And I’m bringing people together. Because, if you’re one of the quiet ones like me, you need to know that there is nothing wrong with you; you do belong! And you can achieve things you didn’t think possible before now. You can live your life in a way that's true to your nature.

I am excited to be creating Quiet Connections. The social enterprise that’s growing quiet confidence throughout Cornwall.

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